Wednesday, September 30, 2009

and damn it if it wasn't the best year of my life

I really want to blog about my very bestest friends wedding and I will but right now I have a boy dilemma! or man. or guy. whatever, you get the picture.

So this summer I took a few classes, one being Sociology of Media which I absolutely loved. In the class there were like 5 guys total and then like 20 girls. There was a really handsome cute guy who sat on the other side of the room. Black hair, blue/grey eyes, really good looking and quiet. I really loved the class, so while he was cute I didn't pay much attention because a)25% of the grade was participation b) I had a lot to say and c)he was across the room and how random/awkward would that be? So while we gave each other occasional glances I didn't think much of it. When class was over there wasn't a second thought.

Now it's fall and school started again a few weeks after summer school ended and I walk into my Sociology of Sexualities class and there he is. I was a few minutes late but when the class was over and we were all leaving we both recognized each other and said hi. He told me: "I didn't get a chance to tell you in the last class but I really liked what you had to say. It was really interesting and intelligent" [I'm paraphrasing here so it actually sound way cooler and less lame then I'm making it]. I of course was blown away that he told me this, that he thought that, and just thanked him and was really happy for a few days on that compliment.

Class has been going on a few weeks and I have definitely noticed him. We sit in the back near a mutual friend but not next to each other. So the friend, Miryam knows I think he's cute so when we had a group project she had him sit next to me and we all had a good time. I found out hes 36 and he found out I'm 26. He thought I was younger and I asked if it was because of how I look or how I act. He smiled and kinda stumbled on his words and told me I spoke eloquently and that it's how I look which I get a lot so no suprise. Everyone was surprised I'm 26 since they think I'm like 21. [I keep telling myself that it's great I look young and have good skin, I'll be happy when I'm 40 I think..]

So after class I am just like, Fuck it i am going to do this! I mean, strike while the iron is hot or whatever, right? So I was like "Hey, I have a question to ask you" and then I made this funny hand motion thing while i told him "Hey I don't know what your situation is but I was wondering if you want to hang out sometime" and he told me he had no situation and that he would like to. So we walked and talked for about 15 minutes. I found out he was in the air force, married for 2 years, lives in a far away city, used to live where my mom lives/I currently live, likes kids, and some other things. It was really easy to talk to him and we exchanged numbers. I explained how I would be gone the weekend and then was moving this week/end. So I see him  in class tomorrow and Seriously I know I don't need to be but still. DO I have to wait for him to make the next move, do I make it?

I tend to just want to do eveything normal, see what/if he says anything about the wedding/me/talks to me. Then take it form there. Say it does go well, first date/hang out suggestions?

I have a ton of great second date ideas but not the first ice breaker, besides no movies(thanks patrick) which I agree with because then you spend awkward hours in the dark and yeah. I mean I love Chicago and it's fall so there are haunted houses, drive in movies, pumpkin patches, wine tastings, no mini golf :( but maybe bowling, a bulls game! etc etc but I need suggestions for a first date.

So guys? girls? puppies? Please send any and all suggestions for my next move/first date suggestion and I will be forever grateful!! Cause seriously, we need to insert a boyfriend in that picture, I already left him space cause I'm sweet like that lol

Ted: Okay, I'm going to say something out loud that I've been doing a pretty good job of not saying out loud lately. What you and Tony have, what I thought for a second you and I had, what I know that Marshall and Lily have, I want that. I do. I keep waiting for it to happen. I'm waiting for it to happen and I guess I'm just tired of waiting. And that is all I'm going to say on that subject.
Stella: You know how I talked my way out of a speeding ticket?
Ted: Really?
Stella: I was heading upstate with my parents, I was doing 90 on the country roads. I got pulled over. So this cop, gets out of his car, swaggers over and he says, 'Lady, I've been waiting for you all day.' And I said, 'Sorry Officer, I got here as fast as I could.'
Ted: For real?
Stella: No, it's just a joke. [pause] I know that you're tired of waiting. And you may have to wait a little while more but, she's on her way, Ted. And she's getting here as fast as she can.
How I Met Your Mother


Aritza, Goddess of .. said...

Awwww wow, he sounds great !!! Blue eyes and black hair ?? My heart melts! I think it's awesome that he "doesn't have a situation" and would love to hang out! Yay!

Also, I love that he complimented you on HOW SMART you are, that's a good move on his part :) Not everything is about how hot you are, altough you ARE !

Let him ask you for the date or next hang out, you'll feel more confident that way :) The pumpkin patch or wine tasting sound like great ideas !!

Steve said...

-Pumpkin patch (and if it goes REALLY well, go back and decorate / carve them)
-Apple pickin'
-Arboretum / fall-color observing
(can you tell I love outdoors in fall?)
-Bar with board games (

bethany said...

Awww...this guy sounds seriously sweet. Don't you hate that uncomfortable unknown? The awkwardness of having to make the first move! But, I vote that you call him/bump into him after class to initiate some sort of autumnal activity. There is no better time to fall in love than autumn...embrace the season! :)

Carissa said...

I love How I Met Your Mother! that's a great quote. and don't worry, I'm sure you'll have someone to fill that space you left soon enough :)

at least the boy from class sounds like a good candidate. he compliments your intelligence?! smooth move, haha. nice to know he listens to what you have to say as that is very important in a relationship later on. and the fact that he's easy to talk to is good too. I'm dating a 36 year old but I really have no advice when it comes to that. ha! but I'm liking what I hear so far.

as for date ideas, I am really no good for that either since I have only ever been on two first dates! one with my first boyfriend and one with my second. which makes me sound lame. oh well. but I think any of your ideas sound great, especially bowling. it is fun and interactive and I think you can tell a lot about a person's personality actually.

well, good luck, don't be nervous, can't wait to hear about the wedding (love your dress!) and the first date!

Mandy said...

I'd suggest fun fall activities. He sounds absolutely adorable.

Andy said...

I have like this huge 14 y.o.-like crush on a guy, but truth is, he's dreaaaamy. Tall, dark hair, light eyes, huge eyelashes, big smile, makes me giggle, etc... BUT it turns out his BEST FRIEND IN THE WORLD likes me. And this best friend is also cute and hot, but not as adorable as the other one and I'm in a HUUUGE boy dilemma as well!