Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Your future happiness may depend on your ability to leave your past behind.

When is it appropriate to change my facebook status, and to what?

Right now it has "in a relationship" but that's not really very accurate.
I could...

-change it to "it's complicated". my relationship is in fact complicated and that would the most true thing to put. this mean though that friends, people I went to school with and don't talk to and only added to facebookstalk would know that i am having problems and do I really want them to know that? current friends might ask me what's going on and i don't really feel like telling them if they don't know or don't know about this blog, it's better left unsaid. also is it acutally complicated or in fact over and i am in denial? how about in transition? can that be an option?

-change it to nothing and leave a black space. that way its ambigious. but this basically means, uh oh somehting went down if she isn't claiming anything or somehting is being hidden. so. no good.

(sidenote:i am typing this in between classes at school, and really, are people still wearing Abercrombie and Fitch tshirts? hmm.)

-leave it the same and have people who know what's going on wonder about it and see that i am in denial. this also goes with pretend i am too busy to change it.

I think it goes without saying that anything I do I will immediately delete so it doesn't show up on people's pages as news.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think it's better to get the hard stuff over with and out of the way. Changing it would be the first step (of many) in the healing process. That's just my opinion though :)

bianca said...

arg the world of facebook...

Here's my thing: you know what's going on. Anyone you want to know knows what's going on. So who cares what people who are facebook stalking will say. You know my opinion on that/them. I say just take it down and see which of them has the balls to mention it to you

Rachel Burton said...

Hey - just found this blog. Really fun! (and I love paying with exact change which drives my husband crazy sometimes when I'm in line counting out pennies to the cashier)

It's sad how I can agonize over Facebook decision. I've been known to delete the notice when I change profile pics! Good luck with your decision.

Anonymous said...

Just find new BF and keep your facebook status under "in relationship" ;-)

Estella said...

You should just not have a status. That's what I did for the two years I was in a relationship. My theory was facebook jinxes relationships but apparently my theory didn't hold up. So really you shouldn't be listening to me. Regardless...I'm all about the no status thing. If you change it, expect about 20 messages from guys you haven't talked to since you started dating the BF. True story.

Tiffany said...

i love you guys, status has been changed!!